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  For Carol Jean Sweet-Jones

  PRELUDE

  Elegy with Grown Folks’ Music

  “I Wanna Be Your Lover” comes on the kitchen radio

  and briefly, your mother isn’t your mother—

  just like, if the falsetto is just right, a black man in black

  lace panties isn’t a faggot, but a prince,

  a prodigy—and the woman with your hometown

  between her hips shimmies past the eviction notice

  burning on the counter and her body moves like she never

  even birthed you. The voice on the radio pleads

  “I wanna be the only one that makes you come

  running.” Some songs take women places men cannot

  follow. Spinning, she looks at but doesn’t see you,

  spinning, she sings lyrics too fast for you to pursue,

  spinning, she doesn’t have time for questions like:

  What is this nasty song and where did she learn

  to dance like that and why, and who is this high-pitched

  bitch of a man who can sing like a woman and turn

  your mother not into your mother but a woman,

  not even a woman, but a box-braided black girl, a fast

  girl, a chick, a Vanity 6 and how far away she is from you

  right here in the same living room, dancing

  with the song’s hook in her throat. And you hate

  the voice coming through the radio because another

  sissy has snatched your dreams and run off with them

  and because you’re young and don’t know the difference

  between abandoned and alone just like your mother’s

  heart won’t know the difference between beat

  and attack. She’ll be dead in a decade and maybe

  you already know what you’re losing without knowing

  how, but you’re just a boy for now and your mother

  is just a woman, just a girl, body swaying, fingers

  snapping and snakes in her blood.

  PART ONE

  Since no one has talked to him about such feelings, he does not know what they are. And yet he is drawn to them, to the dream-like quality of doing something he has never done before, yet knowing, somehow, how to do it.

  —DAVID MURA

  1MAY 1998

  LEWISVILLE, TEXAS

  The waxy-faced weatherman on Channel 8 said we had been above 90 degrees for ten days in a row. Day after day of my T-shirt sticking to the sweat on my lower back, the smell of insect repellant gone slick with sunscreen, the air droning with the hum of cicadas, dead yellow grass cracking under every footstep, asphalt bubbling on the roads. It didn’t occur to me to be nervous about the occasional wall of white smoke on the horizon that summer. Everything already looked like it was scorched, dead, or well on its way.

  I was twelve years old and I had just finished the sixth grade. Most days, after Mom headed to her job at the airport, I would stay inside our apartment, stationed by the window. Cody and his younger brother, Sam, two white boys who lived a few apartment buildings over from us, were always playing catch in the parking lot, though I never joined them. I wasn’t good at throwing the ball and it was too hot for me to go out and pretend.

  When I wasn’t at my perch, acting like I wasn’t watching them, I would flip through Mom’s old paperback books. So far, I had tried out Tar Baby and The Color Purple, both unsuccessfully. Toni Morrison’s sentences were like rivers with murky bottoms. They didn’t obey the rules I was learning in school. When I stepped in, I couldn’t see my feet; I retreated back to the shore. Alice Walker lost me because, a few pages in, some girl was talking about the color of her pussy. I figured the book didn’t have much more to offer me after that.

  Today I tried again. I picked up a worn copy of Another Country by James Baldwin, sat down cross-legged on the floor, and started reading. A sad man walks through the streets of New York City late one winter night. He goes into a jazz club looking for someone or something but doesn’t say why.

  Minutes pooled into hours. Black people sleeping with white people. Men kissing men, then kissing women, then kissing men again. Every few pages, I would look up from the book and peek at our apartment’s front door. Mom wasn’t home from work yet and I felt like I would get in trouble if she saw me reading this book. I went into my bedroom, with our cocker spaniel, Kingsley, trailing behind me, and I closed the door.

  The novel turned me on. I didn’t know books were capable of anything like this. Until now, I had liked reading but it was just something you did. A good thing, like drinking water on a hot day, but nothing special. Holding Another Country in my hands, I felt that the book was actually holding me. Sad, sexy, and reeking of jazz, the story had its arm around my waist. I could walk right into the scene, take off my clothes, and join one of the couples in bed. I could taste their tongues.

  About a third of the way into the novel, I found a Polaroid tucked between the pages like a bookmark. It was a picture of a man I had never seen before. He didn’t resemble anyone in my family, but, for all I knew, he could have been a distant cousin or uncle. He was leaning against a sedan with his arms crossed and an odd smile on his face, as if the person holding the camera had just told him an inside joke. Or maybe this man was doing the telling. The smile felt intimate, inappropriate, like a hand sliding down where it should not be.

  Someone had written “Jackson, Mississippi, 1982” on the back, but I could’ve figured that out on my own. The man was dressed like an extra in a Michael Jackson video. He had on a knit sweater and black, acid-washed jeans that were way too tight. I could see the whites of his socks. And I knew he was in Mississippi because of the red dust all over his sneakers. On a trip to Mississippi with my aunt once, I’d seen that dirty redness on every car, lapping at the sides of houses like flood tides, and all over the loafers I was wearing. “That’s what Mississippi does to you,” my aunt had said when she saw my shoes. I kept on trying to use one foot to brush red dirt off the other, only making things worse.

  I decided I didn’t like the man in the picture. The dirt on his shoes irritated me, and the longer I looked at his smile, the more I felt like he was looking directly at me. Not at the camera in 1982, but at me, sixteen years later. He grinned like he knew something about me, a punch line I hadn’t figured out yet.

  When Mom came home from work, she headed straight into the kitchen to pour herself a glass of water from the Ozark jug. That was part of her routine. She’d drink the entire glass right there in front of the fridge. Then she’d walk into her room and stare at the TV for a little bit, listening to the weatherman deliver a forecast—more heat—she already knew.

  Mom was beautiful but always on the edge of exhaustion. When she was in her twenties, she had worked briefly as a fashion model. Sometimes she’d let me look at pictures of her from those days, hair in box braids, her lithe frame draped in gowns her sister had designed, posing on runways. Even a long day of work couldn’t deny her the colors her black hair flashed, like raven feathers, when the light hit it just so. I was proud of her beauty, my first diva. Even as my body felt mangled by puberty, I took consolation in the fact that I came from a woman like her: a woman who read three newspaper
s every day, who could make everyone in a room light up with laughter, who would tuck notes into my lunch box daily, signing off, “I love you more than the air I breathe.”

  After working at the airport all day, Mom was too tired for any of my questions, so I waited until she’d had a cigarette. After a smoke, she would be ready to talk.

  She saw the Polaroid in my hand when I walked up to her. “I’d been wondering what happened to that.” She held the photo in her hand gently, as if it would crumble to dust if she wasn’t careful. Her face softened just a little.

  “Who is he?” I asked.

  She looked out the window at the oak tree right outside the living room. She stared at it long and hard, like she was waiting for some signal. Moments like this had taught me how to shut up and wait for an answer. When I was younger, I would give up during Mom’s pauses because I thought the answer wasn’t going to come. Eventually I learned that she was just testing me, to see how serious I was about finding out.

  I stared at the window with her, then arched one eyebrow.

  She sighed.

  “A friend from school. We’d go on road trips together now and then. We went to Jackson once.”

  She paused again, still looking at the tree. For a moment, it was quiet inside the apartment and out, like the heat was making the entire town hold its breath. Then Cody and Sam started yelling at each other in the parking lot.

  Mom frowned and turned back to me.

  “Not too long after that, he found out he was sick and… and he killed himself.”

  She was already walking back to the kitchen for more water, which was her way of saying that the conversation was over. It was too hot, the day too long.

  I wanted to see the man’s picture again. He had looked healthy to me. He was young, early twenties. And what did being sick have to do with killing yourself?

  “Sick with what?” I called out, even as I felt bad for asking.

  I had stepped into someone else’s house without their permission, but now that I was inside I couldn’t help looking around.

  “AIDS,” she said.

  She breezed into her bedroom and closed the door. I could hear her open a drawer and turn the TV on. I tried to listen for the weatherman’s predictions, but the volume was down too low.

  I went back into my room and pulled Another Country out from under my pillow. After reading and rereading the same paragraph several times, I set the book back down.

  AIDS, I thought. Shit.

  She hadn’t even said her friend’s name.

  * * *

  “GAY” WASN’T A word I could imagine actually hearing my mom say out loud. If I pictured her moving her lips, “AIDS” came out instead. But in the days following our conversation about the photograph, I could feel the word “gay”—or maybe the word’s conspicuous absence—vibrating in the air between us.

  I’d read in one of my nature books that there are some sounds that occur at a frequency only dogs and special radios can pick up on. Sounds that can only be heard if you were designed to hear them. I could hear that word ringing high above every conversation, every moment, because I thought about being gay all the time.

  I heard it vibrating in the air when I watched Cody and his friends playing pickup in the park, sweat making their shirts transparent and heavy, their nipples poking at the fabric. I could hear it too when I thought about the man in the photograph. I wished I still had the Polaroid, but it would’ve been weird to ask Mom if I could look at it again. I wanted to see his smile; I thought I would understand it better now.

  I carried that man’s smile in my head for three days until the smirk became a laugh, a taunt, a howl. One morning as Mom got ready to leave for work, I stared at the ceiling, then closed my eyes when she opened my bedroom door to let the dog in. Whenever she left, Kingsley would panic, pressing his face against the window so he could watch her car pull away. It happened five days a week; but each morning he was just as frantic, as if this would be the day she left, never to return.

  With Kingsley yipping at my ankles, I ventured into Mom’s room. The picture wasn’t on her dresser and I thought about going through her drawers to find it. The last time I had done that, though, I’d found her vibrator. The discovery had been its own punishment.

  Still, I knew that there was a place I could go to get the answers I wouldn’t find at home. Throwing on clothes without even eating, I opened the front door and locked it behind me. Kingsley barked and scratched at the sill as if he were trying to warn me.

  * * *

  IN THE PUBLIC library’s air-conditioned coolness, I decided I knew better than to ask the wrinkled woman at the circulation desk where to find books about being gay. Instead, I slowly walked up and down each aisle, scanning book spines until I found what I was looking for. The first book that stopped me was for parents dealing with gay children. The introduction was worded like it was intended for readers coping with a late-stage cancer diagnosis. I put the book back on the shelf, wrong side out.

  Eventually, I gathered five or six books and sat down on the floor with them in my lap. Like any teenage boy trained at reading things he shouldn’t be, I looked both ways before opening any, then got up and grabbed a decoy off the shelf. It was a book about the “sociology of boys.” I kept it open on the second chapter and within reach in case someone I knew came down the aisle and I needed a quick alibi.

  While I was reading a book about “defining homosexuality,” my dick started to get hard. The writing certainly wasn’t sexy; the language was outdated and dry. Still my body responded.

  That changed as I read further into the books in my pile. All the books I found about being gay were also about AIDS. Gay men dying of AIDS like it was a logical sequence of events, a mathematical formula, or a life cycle. Caterpillar, cocoon, butterfly; gay boy, gay man, AIDS. It was certain. Mom’s friend got AIDS because he was gay. Because he was gay, he killed himself. Because he knew he was dying anyway.

  I read about gay men who were abandoned by their families when they came out. Or worse, who didn’t tell anyone that they were gay, even when lesions started to blossom on their skin like awful flowers. Either way, the men in those books always seemed to die alone. I took some comfort in the fact that Mom knew about her friend’s illness. Maybe he had been able to tell the people close to him. Maybe Mom was the kind of person you could tell.

  When I stood up to put the books back on the shelf, I realized my hands were shaking. I felt like I had made the mistake of asking a fortune-teller to look into my future, and now I was being punished for trying to look too far ahead. Walking outside, the blast of hot air was a relief.

  I passed the park on the way home, and the usual boys were on the basketball court. Shirts and skins. I looked at their bodies, but only for a moment. I couldn’t really focus. In every man’s expression, shimmering amid the heat waves, I found myself searching for the face of the man in the photograph—for a hint of that smile, that beautiful, unforgivable smile.

  2JUNE 1998

  LEWISVILLE, TEXAS

  By the time Cody asked me if I wanted to go with him and his brother into the woods near our apartment complex, I had already been humping my pillow and whispering his name in breathy gasps for weeks.

  I’d been in my bedroom, reading another book from Mom’s bookshelf—this time Tina Turner’s autobiography—when Cody knocked on the door. I thought the invitation was a trick at first, the lead-up to some prank. Part of me still felt that way as we walked toward the woods.

  “You’re not gonna believe it, man. He’s built a hut and everything,” said Cody.

  “Fuck!” added Sam, who had a tendency of punctuating anything his older brother said with a curse word.

  We posted up under a giant crepe myrtle tree to take in a moment of shade. Cody hocked a loogie, then we ventured out into the heat. Really, I could’ve cared less about this crazy man and his hut; I was just excited to get to be around Cody.

  Even though he was scrawny and ha
d more acne than me, Cody was popular at school. He could sit wherever he wanted at lunch (except with the black kids); I sat with the band kids and tried to discreetly avoid sitting with the table of black kids, who if given half a chance would lay into me with one joke after another. Once I’d gotten so upset at them, during a ten-minute barrage about the khaki pants Mom insisted I wear, that I hollered, “And you call yourself a Christian!” Which only made everyone laugh louder. I could understand why Cody would pretend not to know me, as if we didn’t see each other every day on the steps of our apartments.

  “Hell yeah!” shouted Sam as if he heard what I was thinking. Sam grabbed a tree branch off the ground and held it above his head like a spear. With his buck teeth and freckles, he looked like one of the maniac schoolboys from Lord of the Flies, except with a Texas accent.

  “Put that shit down,” said Cody, talking around the Blow Pop lodged in his right cheek. “We’re not gonna kill him, Sam.”

  The fact that Cody even had to clarify this to his brother worried me.

  “Well, what are we gonna do?” I asked. “Gonna” instead of “going to” took effort; I was my mother’s son.

  Cody stopped walking and leaned toward me. I could smell the Blow Pop’s green apple flavor on his breath. Having him so close made me nervous, as if I might kiss him by accident. I took a small step back.

  “We’re gonna huff and puff and blow his house down,” he said, leaning in farther. His voice was low, hovering between menace and seduction.

  “We’re gonna—” I sputtered. “What?”

  Cody sighed and dug around in his pockets, probably looking for another Blow Pop. “We’re gonna tear down the old man’s hut.”

  “Fuck yeah!” added Sam.

  “Why?” I felt like a punk for even asking.

  Both brothers sucked their teeth at the question and walked away without a word, as if I’d let them down. I knew the answer all right. We were bored. It was hot. And there was nothing better to do than break things.